Dear Wonderful Kid: A Pink Shirt Day Letter.
With the impending approach of Pink Shirt Day, I’ve had a lot to think about. Pink
Shirt Day, February 22, 2023, is a day for bully awareness and anti-bully activities.
There’s a lot of effort being put into the bully problem that plagues our world, but there is still a long way to go. I began thinking about how I, a bullying survivor in my own right, could possibly help. Here it is. An open letter to all the kids out there who are still struggling every day.
Dear Wonderful Kid,
You are a Valuable Human Being.
Whoever you are and whatever your circumstances, you are a
valuable human being. You were put in this world for a reason and you have a
wonderful life ahead of you. You have things to offer the world that you may
not even be aware of, yet. You deserve to be treated kindly and with respect.
Always.
People may say awful things about you, but you will decide what
kind of person you are. You will decide what kind of life you’re going to live
and how you’re going to live it. They have no control over that. The power is
in your hands. Nothing anybody can say can change who you know you are.
What They are Doing is Wrong
First and foremost, they are wrong. You are not stupid or
ugly or worthless or any of the other awful things those kids at school are
saying about you. They are lying, but did you know that when they behave like
that, it actually says more about them than you? There is something going on in
their lives that make them think they need to tell lies about others to succeed
or be accepted. That’s on them, not you.
Remember, there is nothing you can do or say to bring
bullying upon yourself or to deserve it. It is always wrong in every situation.
You are Entitled to Feel Safe and Self-Defend
You are entitled to feel safe and protected every day. You
are allowed to defend yourself. You are never entitled to bully back or hurt
anybody else in any way. Underline this. Violence is never okay in any form.
But you also don’t need to hang your head and willingly take abuse. The trick
is to learn the safe and effective ways of dealing with it. There are so many
resources available to learn the best ways to safely deal with bullying. Take
advantage of these things.
If you are being badly threatened or abused, it’s okay to
walk away. You are not obliged to be abused or mistreated by anyone and walking
away can be a form of self defense. It’s far better than picking a fight.
Something Can be Done About It
You may be told there’s not much that can be done about it.
This isn’t true. There is something teachers can and should be doing about it,
even if they didn’t personally witness the incident. If they’re not, go to your
parents, the school board, or, if it’s serious enough, the police. You have the
right to a safe classroom.
You Don’t Have to Believe the Myths
You’ve probably heard things like “kids will be kids”,
“everyone goes through this”, and “it’s just a part of growing up”. Yes, lots
of kids get bullied and it’s a problem that’s been around for generations, but
that doesn’t make it okay. If anyone tells you it does or that this proves that
it’s no big deal, they’re wrong. They are also wrong if they suggest you
“develop a thicker skin”. Yes, you will develop the strength to deal with
life’s challenges and difficulties, but no one needs to develop a tolerance to
being abused and mistreated.
Some people will tell you it’s not really a problem as long
as you haven’t been physically harmed. Sticks and stones can break your bones
but words will never hurt you and all that. That’s also not true. Words can
burn deeper than bruises, and they always last longer. You have the right to
get through the day without insults or threats. You have the right to get
through school without feeling shame or embarrassment.
And Always Remember…
No matter who you are, You. Do. Not. Deserve. This.
From,
A concerned friend who’s been where you are.
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